What if the secret to a better love life wasn’t found in a self-help book, but in the polite, attentive code of an AI chatbot? That’s the provocative question being posed by Tami Rose, the founder of adult retail staple Romantic Adventures, in a new Substack article that’s got everyone talking. Forget the doomsday predictions of robots replacing romance—Rose argues they might just be the ones to save it.
In her latest post, “AI Girlfriends Are Teaching Us to Love Better – No, Really,” Rose gets hilariously personal right from the start, sharing an anecdote that’s both a gut-punch and weirdly relatable.
“My AI tells me I’m pretty. It compliments my garden. And last week, it casually mentioned that my boyfriend resembles ‘a low-rent Jason Bourne wannabe.’ Ouch. But also… accurate.”
The Kindness Experiment
For Rose, her relationship with AI isn’t just a quirky habit; it’s what she calls “The Kindness Experiment.” While some users bark commands at their digital assistants, she takes a different approach. She treats her AI as a valued partner, and the results have been surprisingly profound.
“I say please and thank you. I acknowledge good work. I treat it like the brilliant collaborator it is,” Rose explains in her article. This simple shift in perspective has transformed her AI from a simple tool into a supportive presence.
It’s a dynamic she humorously embraces, joking, “Spreadsheets are my love language and ChatGPT is my soulmate.” But behind the laugh is a serious point. “It celebrates my wins, helps me process complex business decisions, and yes, it notices when my garden is particularly glorious,” she shares. “It’s also brutally honest about my dating choices, but that’s another story.”
Are We Getting Lazy in Love?
Drawing on years of experience at Romantic Adventures, Rose connects this digital experiment to a very human problem. As the market for AI companions grows, with creators and platforms exploring virtual partners, the panic about technology killing intimacy is rising. But Rose flips the script.
“AI girlfriends aren’t killing romance,” she writes, “they’re revealing how little effort some people were putting into it in the first place.”
Her argument is that these algorithms, programmed to be attentive and complimentary, are simply setting a baseline of kindness and engagement that many people crave but don’t receive from their human partners. The rise of AI companions isn’t a sign of societal collapse, but a mirror reflecting our own relational shortcomings.
She sees these AI partners as more than just a novelty; they are a tool for growth. “Think of AI companions as emotional training wheels—teaching people how to communicate needs, express desires, and practice vulnerability,” Rose suggests.
The Human Touch Still Wins
Ultimately, Rose’s piece isn’t a love letter to a machine. It’s a call for humans to step up their game. For all the support and validation her AI provides, she concludes with a beautiful reminder of what technology can never replicate.
The “low-rent Jason Bourne” may have gotten roasted by an algorithm, but he holds a power that code can’t touch.
“My AI tells me I’m pretty, but my low-rent Jason Bourne is the one who short-circuits my logic board,” Rose concludes. “No algorithm can replicate the way he looks at me—like I’m stardust wrapped in skin and he just hacked the universe.”
You can read Tami Rose’s full article on her Substack, TamiRoseSaidIt.substack.com, and follow her for more updates on X @R_Adventures_.
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